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Out with the old and in with the … Old?

January 2, 2011


So 2010 has zipped by, faster than 2009.  It felt like yesterday, I was wishing everyone a Happy 2010.  To me, it’s a realization that time definitely does not slow down.  In fact, the older one gets, the faster time goes.  According to my mental calculation, by the time I’m 60, one year will feel like 1 month!!!  Gulp.  Quite terrifying.  That’s probably why so many cannot achieve their resolutions.  Because before they know it, the year is over and they haven’t even started.  I’ve often wondered why we always make new years resolutions when everyday is a new day.  The only  answer I have is that it has been a social tradition.  So I’ll go with it, although I’m not much of a new year’s resolver – I believe that resolutions should be year round.   I’m sure most people decided on a new year’s resolution or resolutions for 2010.  Now that we’re in 2011, if I asked most people, they would have not achieved their goals probably because: (a) they forgot even making the resolution(s) or; (b) it has been a yearly resolution that wasn’t much of a resolution, but just a hope that they carried forward year to year, hoping that it will magically happen.

Some of the most common resolutions: Quit Smoking, Dieting/Losing weight/Get Fit, Lessen Debt Load, Make More Money, Find True Love, Spend More Time with Loved Ones, Be Happier

I’m sure many have made atleast (or maybe even all) of these resolutions and have had a tough time achieving them.  So what’s with the difficulty?  Why are the same old always the same old?

Unfortunately – and fortunately – we are creatures of habit, steady Eddies.  We mostly live our lives unconsciously and in order for us to make a real change it takes for us to be really conscious about it.  But not only that, there are a few other ingredients to success than just being conscious (although it’s one of the most important ingredients I think).  And here is what I advise.  If you really want to achieve your resolution here are some helpful hints:

1. Write down your resolutions on paper by order of priority.   Make it into a contract where you write you commit to achieving these resolutions and keep it where you can easily find it.  And then sign and date it.   Realize that success does not magically happen (usually) while you’re sitting there.  Achieving success is by doing.  By doing, you are steps closer to success. 

2. Take the top priority of your list and note it where you can see it almost everyday – on your phone, in your car, in your desk, as your screen saver.  It doesn’t have to be in full so that everyone can read it.  Put it in a point form or code so that only you can understand.  Only go through one resolution at a time.  If you overwhelm yourself with too many, you will end up not achieving any of them.

3. Make sure the resolutions are attainable and be very specific of your goal.  Don’t make the goal to high for you to reach.  Because you are setting yourself up for a difficult journey.  Also, quantify or measure out your goals.  Eg., Instead of saying, “I want to lose weight”, say, “I will lose 10lbs in 5 months.  I will do this by cutting my portions by 25%.” 

4.  Every goal must have a plan.  Write out what steps you need to take in order to achieve that goal.  If you want to be more fit, then you need to make steps first.  Eg., find a convenient gym, sign up, commit to going 1/week or twice/week first, maybe in the first month.  And the next month, add a day, or more if you can handle.  Or find a trainer.  Or commit to jogging once around the block, two times per week for the first month.  And then month 2, jog twice around the block, and so on. 

5. Do as much research as you can (books, internet, videos, consultation with professionals, etc).  The more knowledge and inspiration you have, the higher chance you’ll stick with your goal.

6.  Keep a daily/weekly journal of each goal, whether you did anything that day/week or not.  Mark down any changes you have measured.  If no changes, then jot that down as well.  Just remember that it’s a challenge to break the habit and every change is success.

7.  Be aware/conscious of your habits that you’re trying to break.  Hold yourself accountable for the things that you had or hadn’t done to not achieve that goal and be conscious of it.  If you have committed to losing a specified amount of weight, hold yourself accountable for why you feel you gained that weight.  I’m not saying blame – that’s never the right approach.  I’m only saying accountability, with no negativity.  Then each time you eat, be conscious of how/what/when/where/why (especially why) you are eating. 

8.  And equally as important, you have to realize that you are worth committing to and achieving that goal.  Respect yourself  and realize you are worthy of all good things.   And you must respect yourself enough to want only good things in your life.  You deserve to to be successful.  You deserve to be healthy.  You are more worthy than unhealthy food that you eat, or the cigarettes you inhale everyday.  You are better than to be in debt.  You have to believe that. 

9.  This is a bit redundant and similar as no. 7 but it’s worth repeating.  Feel better about yourself and learn to love 9ourself.  That really should be everyone’s life resolution.  The truth is your habits are a mirror image of the way you feel about yourself.  It is your true reflection.  So if you have a great self-esteems, or you’re truly confident, or you truly have self-contentment and self-respect, everything else will fall into place.  So learn to love yourself, truly love yourself.

Incredible journeys to you all.

You must take personal responsiblity.  You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.-  Jim Rohn

You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve. – Napoleon Hill

Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses– George Washington Carver

There is a difference between interest and commitment.  When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient.  When you’re committed to something you accept no excuses, only results – Ken Blanchard

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